Sometimes when we think about helping kids learn how to navigate the social world, we think about teaching them specific things to do in a social situation such as saying “please” or “thank you” or giving direct eye contact. But we forget to talk about what works best for the child and also how to help them regulate so that they can navigate the situation at hand. When this happens, our children can often feel like they can’t do anything right. Speech and language pathologist Elizabeth Sautter describes how teachers and parents can become detectives and a kind of social and emotional ‘coach’ for kids — helping with regulation and setting them up for success with all kinds of social dynamics.